Yesterday, I was flipping channels just before dinner, and the "Brahma kumaris" were on Aastha... They were talking about relationships. Here is a gist..
All of us always get into a relationship because we want something from it, and when we don't we feel that it is not worth it.
But their thought is, realization of one's own inner value is through our experiences in our relationships.
All of us have this one person who makes us feel wonderful when around, but that is not just what that person brings to the plate, but the energy that we radiate when we are around that person that bounces off to give us this sense of feeling wonderful.
It doesn't happen so with everybody else around us, because we roam around by affixing labels on people we meet... "this person is bad", "this person is good"... We then are addicted to this one person and it suddenly seems that life without them does not exist, this they say is like addiction to coffee, alcohol or even nicotine... Love is different from addiction...
If each of us were in a relationship only with the thought of what we would like to bring, immaterial of what we would receive, relationships would be more healthy and less painful or worthless.
So, love not because you want to be loved, give not because you want to be given to...
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